Thought I had a better explain what I was talking about this morning.
I guess it has just been building up..the anticipation of hubby coming home..the delays then the final homecoming..the parties..the expectations...well let's just say hubby has been completely lazy since he got home..and I was fine with it to begin with...but by the end of yesterday I had had it. After stepping over his feet hanging off the end of the couch for about the 20th time as I was back and forth with the laundry..picking up after him and both kids...I had not sat down literally all day.. it took me over an hour to put away all the shopping we got on base..then I had the usual tidying up to do..had to run Ryan to work...all the while hubby is horizontal on the couch... I finally looked at him and asked him why it did not make him feel bad that he has spent the last week watching me do absolutely everything in this house without so much as lifting a finger... we exchanged a few words..I told him how I am tired of him acting like a guest here and that it was time for him to pull his weight...I realize that he has been away from home..but come on...enough already.... I didn't realize how much I had been letting this build up till I let it out.. it felt good!! It was a little tense for a couple of hours but it worked!! I should know by now that this always happens but I tell you I was feeling pretty miserable...it's like this big anti climax..you want the homecoming to be so perfect but the reality is that sooner or later real life has to happen.. Today is so much better... he finally put the new mailbox up..the kids in the neighbourhood had smashed our other one...he attempted to make dinner in the crock pot but dropped the pot on the floor...LOL.. so he took me out to eat instead..I worked today...we had a good talk over dinner and all is well again... I have stopped feeling sorry for myself...and it feels good to have cleared the air...I know I am repeating myself here...LOL...and I am sorry if I worried you guys today...I was in such a rush this morning... I set the alarm for an hour later as Ryan is off school for Christmas and then ended up spending too much time online and ran out of time before I really said what I wanted to say...so anyways all is well with me and hubby...
I hope you all enjoy this last week before the big day...I know we ladies put a lot of pressure on ourselves and get all stressed out... I am trying very hard to just breathe and enjoy....that is my mantra for the next week....;-)
L
15 comments:
Hmmm......why is it that the women are the designated house worker bees?? It has to have been hard on you lately with no help. Very glad that you are feeling better now!! Ya had me worried gurl!!!
Hugs
Carrie
I'm glad all is better! I would have had to do the same thing! And dinner out is a good way to make up.
Traci
deep breath count to 10, lol sounds like your man was acting like my man, J will go to work and makes good money but forget any help from him around the house, not ganna happen, oh well I manage. and I have learned to ignore the feelings I have of wanting to bash his dang on head in sometimes. Hope you have a great night and get some help from your man, It does make things easier.
Missy
PHEW! I had a feeling it was that, THANK GOD, that's all it was!
Grins............ love ya xxx
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I love you Lynn. I'm glad you got it all out. Good job!
Thats good that you got it sorted and glad all is happy in the love shack now. Hugs. Terry x
Glad that's all it was. I can remember these feelings very well. It's like you spend weeks and months all on your own, being both mom and dad, chief cook bottle washer etc. to everyone, keeping the home fires burning. It's nice to have them home, but it's also nice to have another pair of arms and hands to help out and take some of the load off.
Marie
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Glad you got that sorted ~ and all is well ~ Ally
My husband goes on business trips and when he arrives home, is very much like yours. We've had little tiffs over it too. I know he's knackered, but give me a break! I'm so glad that you got it all sorted and can get on with real life now, which is what you wanted anyways, right?
Love,
Susie
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Iknow exactly what you mean ,you wait for them to realise what is happening ,of course they never do ,so you end up explaining it phew lol pleased its sorted now ...love Jan xx
I thought about you all day !!! I'm glad things are OK now.
hugs,
Ellen
Im glad you got it out of your system sometimes you just have to no good to hold it in (which I am guilty of) then exploding which makes it worse oh well men, they are all the same lol love vicky
I'm so happy for you and your family that your husband is finally home. I'm sure it was a wonderful high those first few days. Reality always has to come crashing in and cause chaos doesn't it, lol. I'm glad you got your frustrations out and in the open. You were sweet enough to give him a week to decompress, but you shouldn't have to keep carrying the weight all by yourself... you do that all the while he is not home, taking care of everything so he has a nice, clean home to come back to. I'm just happy that he is helping you out again. I think that these kinds of things just don't naturally occur to men on their own, we have to help them see our point sometimes, lol. I hope you all have wonderful holiday!!
xoxo, Heather
Sometimes a clearing of the air is all that`s needed.
Sandra xxxx
Lyn....am wayyyyy behind
Glad that you managed to talk and get things sorted
Take Care
Jayne
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