Cults ;-)

A lot of you have asked me about the cult comment. Well it's a long story...

A few years back...maybe in 1999 or 2000 I happened upon a message board.. a place to post your gratitude..it was linked from Oprah's boards..Oprah had this show about listing your 5 things each day that you were grateful for and from there a message board formed..I joined this board with the sole intention of listing my gratitude..I liked the idea of finding the positives in my daily life..it became way more than that.. there were a group of ladies that became very good friends..they began to arrange get togethers in the "real" world.. and that is where it all went wrong..from the first get together that I was aware of but did not attend things changed..there was the inevitable talking about the women behind their backs.. I was a part of this group... my hubby called it a cult...he could not understand how I could be such good friends with these women that I had never met..he thought I was obsessed with them.. and I guess I was..to an extent...like I said I did not go to any of the face to face get togethers but I was very active on the board... after a few years and several fallings out between the women a new board formed..more fallings out resulted in it becoming an e mail only format to keep out those who were not "invited" It was all getting a little too "clique" like for me.. I began to drop out.. I didn't post so much.. I felt uncomfortable...fast forward to 2005..there was supposed to be this "reunion" in Orlando Florida..now there was no getting out of that one as I lived so close... well as the time got closer the "head" of the "cult"  decided that she didn't want a certain member of our group to attend and wrote to me to ask me to not include this person when replying to email pertaining to the upcoming get together... she would not however tell this person herself..she just ignored her..the person being ousted asked me why she wasn't getting any of the group email.. I gave the "cult" leader a chance to tell this girl for herself..she wouldn't so I told her that I had been asked to not include her in the email..well as you can imagine it got very ugly..they were furious that I "outed" them..but I could not let this happen.. I tried to give them the chance to tell her themselves.. I did not have a problem with this person..she was my friend and I am a loyal person..just because someone has a problem with you I am not going to just jump on the bandwagon.. I form my own opinions.. I am not one to judge... well there was a lot of denial and a lot of BS flying around.. I decided to end it for once and for all..I forwarded the email  that I had received asking me not to include this person...as you can imagine that was the end of my relationship with these women... I do not regret it.. I had to stand up for what I believed was right and defend my friend. She is still my friend...she reads my blog.. her name is Traci..  Click here: buttrrflyyz

She is an incredible lady who has been through the wringer and still comes out smiling.. Not only is she gorgeous she is an awesome Mum, can sing like you would not believe.. I have a CD that she made...she has such an old soul, she recently lost both her parents to cancer... she is for real... I think Traci had a harder time than me with all this. She was in the group long before me and had been to some of their get togethers... they hurt her real bad and that still angers me...I have to admit I was hurt in all this too but my philosophy is that we have to take something positive from all our experiences and not look back. Traci darling I  do not regret it.. I would do it again in a heartbeat..they were wrong girl... you know that right??  you better dammit!! ;-)

So that's the whole cult thing...not really a cult but you get the drift...hubby just called it that and it stuck..even after the girls would write to him when he was on deployment he still thought it was all a little to weird for him. When all this happened he was shaking his head saying "you don't even know these women" well he was right about that.. I didn't know them at all.....

L