Please read what I just wrote to Heather.....I do NOT enjoy drama and would like for this to end right here right now..I wrote what I wrote because it happened to me and this is my Journal..my words about my life...that's it..it was never meant to start a stupid J Land drama...so read this and then let's move on...
oh for goodness sake this whole thing has been blown way out of proportion!!!!!
Heather just be honest and tell us that you really had a moment of being so flipping pissed off that you said screw them all and went private..it takes a whole lot more than a click of a button to change your Journal to private..you have to WANT to do it and have to go to a special place to do so..you know that because you have gone private many times before...then when you read my entry about being blocked you changed back to public..check the time lines..they check out...
Having said that in the same token my entry was written in anger and hurt and I probably should have waited before writing it..but I'll own that..it was me being me...and I will even be the first to offer an apology..not once did I say a mean thing about you..I was mad at Michael because he let you down and I was hurt because you went private but I never said a single personal thing about you...if you felt like I did then I apologize....this was never about anything more than you hurting and me wanting to help..that's it..everything else is irelevant...
If you close this journal I will get up and see pigs flying around because you know you won't!!
Please accept my apology for what it is and let's move on...
deal?
Lyn
31 comments:
{{{{ Lyn }}}} I hope this all works out...
You are a very good person to make this all public. Good for you.
be well,
Dawn
coming from someone who has been thru a J LAND fiasco, this may snowball into something way beyond a misunderstanding.....when people are online and not face to face things can get crazy. I am really really sorry this is all happening.
LOVE YOU,lisa
That is very big of you to take on responsibility of the incident, even though it is not all your fault. I think that maybe your offer made her a little embarrased and then everything evolved from there. Hopefully things will be fine now.
Hugs
carrie
You truly are a champion!
Hugs
Wendy in Oz
for a change it is nice not to know what the heck is going on.lol....anyway...hope this all works out for you..seems to me you have gave a honest attempt at ending this whole situation.....not much more you can do...
Hey Man, It's your journal and we live in the United States of America so unless something happened while I napped this afternoon as far a current events go I say ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM OF SPEECH MY FRIEND!!! I've got yer back!
LOL...Lyn....I will admit that from time to time I drop my teeth when I read your journal....but then I get a good laugh too...LOL...and well guess you are just too good for you own good...tried to help and it backfired...move on sweetie...you are doing just fine...considering all...LOL...and I like your journal...you tell it like it is...life is not always a bowl of cherries...alot of the time it is the pits!!!!! LOL...hugs from KY....Ora PS...when we were visiting son...I didn't like that bridge either...but then I don't have to cross it very often....LOL
I hope this all works out... I'd hate to see a friendship end over a misunderstanding.
hugs to both
d
These journals are here for us to openly express ourselves like our own personal book of thoughts and if you dont like the magazine dont read it..... just my opinion...lol
Good for you Lyn. I agree it was blown so out of proportion. I really admire you for offering to help and now putting this drama to rest. I've been lucky in my 3 yrs. of journaling.....only had one negative comment and no drama.
Hugs,
D
http://journals.aol.com/heavenlybama/journey-to-success
Awwwww Lyn, hope everything works out for ya, Hugs Lisa
Wouldn't this have been easier handled by e-mailing one another instead of making things public? (so that the comments to both sides wouldn't of caused such pain)? I enjoy you, who you are, your words telling it how it is and knowing that that's how you really feel!!! Your our Ukgal!!!!! You are Awesome and so is your heart! Now it is time to move on to bigger and brighter things, such as how much longer before family is here, so that we can all enjoy the happiness? Hope your tomorrow brings you some comfort knowing that YOUR heart is real!
Katie
Maybe she got pissed - but did you read the journal entry she supposedly flipped out and turned private? About how the kids were going off to school and, and how happy and pleasantly wistful she felt about it? MAYBE that's what she wanted to hide from people (I mean, her son Cody's cute - I'd hide him from you girls, too), but given that others reported AOL instability this morning, I think her explanation makes sense. (The timeline also works out that she flipped back to public after unexpectedly getting comments from friends asking for an "add" to her public blog - which I think was a reasonable thing for them to do.)
But the problem, to my mind, is that people on your journal then called her things like "miserable old bag," "prat," "embarrassed," "ashamed," and suggested that you cut her out of your life and move on. I can understand the misunderstanding - I hope in the same situation I would stick with someone even if I couldn't get to their blog for a little while, but such things happen and we all make assumptions that we then wish we could take back. But if people talked about any of my friends like the people on here have about her, I'd smack the shiny off them -- I wonder if she's not more irritated that you didn't put the kabosh on such comments.
Sometimes people jumping into a simple misunderstanding can think they're helping, but they're really just creating ill-will. The bad part is that unless you come out against such comments, you then get stuck with that ill-will...because all the mean things that were said about the other person were said in support of YOU - even though you didn't say them, and probably didn't agree with them. The only way to get out of that is to say "When so-and-so said ____, I know it hurt you. I understand why she said that, but it was her sentiment, not mine, it was wrong of her, and I didn't agree with it. I should have told her that I thought she was wrong,
I hate it when my long-winded posts get chopped! The rest of that was:
"'but I didn't, and I'm sorry for that.'
That's just my two cents as a sometimes reader of your journals."
That was a truly sincere attempt to fix things dear heart.....Your a lot like me, in the event your outspoken about your feelings and wanting to help those around you. I just started reading Heather myself......Wishing you both peace and love!
(Hugs) Indigo
I hope everything turns out fine.Have a good Tuesday and I hope you are feeling better today. Take Care God Bless Kath
astoriasand http://journals.aol.co.uk/astoriasand/MYSIMPLERHYMES
Oh dear Lyn, so sorry you've had this to deal with, perhaps now it can be forgotten. I love reading your journal, even though I get a bit envious at times of your life in the USA and I hope that from now on you carry on as you were.... easier said than done sometimes I know. Get yourself round the pool and take it easy. Love, Pat http://journals.aol.co.uk/pm71blackfen/ramblings-from-pat/
Don't worry, be happy. I just gave you an award, if you care to pop over to my journal and see what it is. well deserved too I might add. You got plenty of heart girl, don't let anyone take it away, or steal your sunshine either.
Marie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/mariealicejoan/MariesMuses/
PS, I must add my apologies as well, if anything that I said in my support of you Lyn caused any ill feelings on Heather's part. I should have known better. We are all entitled to our own thoughts, but we should be more careful when we give voice to them. What I did goes so much against what I am all about and I really am sorry.
Marie
Well done you! Now, let's move on and have some fun!
Hugs,
Susie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/susanebunn/ItAllStartsAfter50/
Oh dear. Hope everything turns out OK now. Enjoy your day Louise xx
Good Morning (((Lyn))) That was a very sincere, heart felt apology. She accepted it, so I hope we can all put on our big girl panties and move on. I will apologize, too, but I really don't think I did anything except try to help.
Love, Diane
That was a great, sincere apology and I hope she accepted.
Missie
There comes a time in everyone's life when they say things they may or may not mean. I commend you for steepign up and attempting to correct any wrong that may have been done or felt by others.
Britt
I think that is awesome of you.
Kelli
http://journals.aol.com/kamdghwmw/noonmom
Phew, glad that's all over ;-)
Gaz lololol xxxxx
Drama is never any good but you said what you said out of concern. The same concern was all had for Heather when we said what we said. Kudos to you on the apology but I don't nessicarily think you were in the wrong here! -Dawn-
Good for you Lyn. Life's way too short for all that nonsense. B. x
I love your honesty. . .and I love how you have apologised too even though you didnt need to.Sending you a hug across the miles.x x
thats what journals are, your feelings, right?
No comment on drama in Jland..except that we get enough of that crap in real life. Hope things work out for you.
Take care, Chrissie
Post a Comment