Sunday, January 28, 2007

Explanation

Good morning campers.

I am going to explain myself. I did think about just letting it go but I am truly trying to keep it real so I shall tell you what happened although I have to say that it doesn't seem as bad as it did when it first happened.

Anyways...

Thursday morning. I smelt burning. We have had issues with our dryer...I could smell like this melting plastic kind of smell coming through the heating vents..the heater and the dryer and both in the garage (garage is attached to house for you brits)..I looked in the garage and the smell was worse out there...I checked around the house again and went back to the garage with the intent of getting the heating guys number off the unit as I thought it might be coming from the heater...that's when I saw the smoke coming from the dryer plug.. I quickly turned the breakers off...when the plug had cooled off I pulled it out the socket..it disintegrated in my hand..it had totally melted... Now I never leave the house with the dryer running if no one else is home but my daughter was in bed and I was thinking of going to the store..I dread to think what might have happened if I did...anyway I called hubby and he bought a guy from work over who is an electrician to check to see if it was just the dryer or anything else.. he said it was the dryer so off we went to home depot to get a new dryer cord and a new socket for the wall...now I have been telling hubby for months about the dryer socket on the wall being loose and that I have had to keep putting the plug back in etc...he is the worlds worst procrastinator when it comes to fixing things...so anyways we get back from the store.. I know that hubby might take a while so I take the wet clothes up to the Laundromat to dry them.. I get home just in time to take Ryan to the first of 3 dentist appointments...2 and a half hours later after stopping by to pick up Ryan's paycheck we are home.. I have not stopped all day..nothing to eat etc... I check Ryans hours against what I have written on the calendar because I think they haven't been paying him enough..they did it last time so this pay period I wrote everything down.. sure enough his hours are wrong..this leads to an argument between me and Ryan.. he does not want to say anything to his manager..who I think he has a crush on but anyway...hubby who is sitting on the computer playing hearts tells me..ME not my son who is yelling his head off at his MOTHER.. to shut up...that I am "Shouting"..I was not shouting.. yes I was loud.. I am loud period..and yes I would say my voice was louder than usual..but I assure you I was not shouting..you wanna here shouting?  LOL trust me I can shout really loud..hubby just likes to tell me I am shouting like my MOTHER just to irritate me..and it works..it is one of those stupid button pushers married people like to use..he also likes to put his hands over his ears or whistle to add to the irritation.. I find it so damn childish and it just really pisses me off which of course is the whole point.. well I lost it..I told my son and his father that I am sick of being taken advantage of and I was leaving..I needed to be alone and get away from it all....so hubby proceeds to SCREAM at me to "Fu%^ing leave and not come back" so I did. I went to the movies but nothing took my fancy so I went to Booksamillion..did some serious damage there.. took my books and my supper which I picked up at the mall..and an ice cold six pack.. and booked myself into a Hotel... with a whirlpool..and two huge beds and silence..and let me tell you it was bliss!! I ate my supper on the bed...<giggle>...drank my cold beers in my hot bubble bath and read my new book... the whirlpool tub was amazing and I kept topping it up...I had a good old cry...talked to myself..LOL and had me a grand old time...I also ignored my cell phone...hubby had to deal with it all.. which included getting up at 545 am to make sure Ryan was awake... ;-) I had a leisurely breakfast at the hotel and then came home.. the house was a pigsty..the beds weren't made etc but I didn't even care.. my 12 hours alone were just what Ineeded...and yes I did get an apology from both hubby and son...I heard later from true beauty that there was a lot of texting and phone calls going on to the effect of "have you heard from mum?" "where do you think she is?" "You think she's coming home?" LOL..I am glad I gave them something to think about..and I think hubby might think twice before he whistles or cover his ears again...

I am sure this all sounds petty and trivial but at the time I was really fed up.. I do everything for my family.. I take care of all the running around...the house, the dog,  all the finances etc etc no one ever has to worry about a thing..they just know I will do it..and usually I don't mind....I love taking care of everyone.. I only work 2 days a week and so I have the time...BUT don't take me for granted...plus Thursday was just awful..the thought of my house almost burning down terrifies me...

So that's my "running away" story. that's what we are calling it here in the Hatfield house..LOL "hey what were you doing Thursday..you know the night mum ran away" "oh Mum did you hear about so and so..oh that's right you weren't here you ran away"LOL.. leave it my wonderful family to find some humour in it all....

I am so far behind on alerts..if I haven't made it to you please forgive me..I've been too busy being a Drama Queen.... :-)

thanks for all your wonderful comments...It truly touched me..this keeping it real stuff ain't so bad after all....

L

43 comments:

Anonymous said...

F*** me! It needed to be done and you did it. I am 100% behind you, it  seems to me that you do more than enough for your family. I remember being at home and my Mum doing the same thing, I made her so mad she gritted her teeth rather than wallop me and she broke her front tooth....... But hey, that's my story. It must have looked like a scene from Desperate Housewives. I would love to have been a fly on the wall, mind you, I wouldn't have been able to see cos of the smoke!
At least you all had a good laugh about it later, if ya can't laugh at yourself ya can't laugh an anything.
Next time hubby puts his hands over his ears. Crack him one with the nearest frying pan................. Love ya and big hugs

Gaz xxxxxxxxxxx
PS Did Hubby fix the dryer?

Anonymous said...

Hehe, you really showed 'em. Good for you. I reckon you should spend a weekend away every month just to keep 'em on their toes. Hope he fixed the drier after all that. B. x

Anonymous said...

I think every women should do what you did, at least once a month, good for you, you show em girl, lol. Fire is one of my worse fears. I hope you got that dryer sorted out.
love and hugs
katie
x

Anonymous said...

Hi Camper! you are going through a rough time UKgirl!
But you managed well.
Valerie

Anonymous said...

There are times I want to run away.......... and next time I am going to!
Glad things are better
hugs
d

Anonymous said...

Brilliant! Good for you. My lot do the same thing tell me I'm shouting when I am just talking loudly because I am justifiably annoyed. I know when I'm shouting and when I'm not, there is a big difference.

I've never stayed away over night but after a similar row once I drove off into a country to a lovely ancient Inn and had dinner there. I left them to feed themselves. I was chatted up by a very nice man who was dining there and had a drink with him and chatted for a couple of hours. He wanted me to stop the night. lol. But I went home to my chastened family feeling very much better knowing that I'd still got 'It'.

I love the sound of the room and whirpool bath.

Linda x.

Anonymous said...

You have done what we all WANT to do !!! GOOD FOR YOU GIRL !!
It sounded wonderful and I'm happy you got some good time away.
Hope things work out at home.
hugs,
E.

Anonymous said...

Here Here! Hurray for you!  Sometimes it takes a little dose of "reality" for the ones we love to wake up and smell the coffee as it were.  In any case a little time out and time just for "you" can never be bad.  We all need to recharge our batteries sometimes and just take care of "us".  I think if I had run away alot more during my last marriage I might have stayed married...as it was I left it so long I had to run away for good!  {{{{hugs}}}} I just love coming in here and reading your entries and I missed you!
Marie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/mariealicejoan/MariesMuses/

Anonymous said...

Oh boy, did I call it, or what?  There's the yound man I mentioned in the reading and the little short-term problem.  Well done you!  I've learned from your reaction.  I think the next time I have a temper tantrum, this might just be the ticket for me!  I'm glad everything is aired out and sorted - especially that faulty plug!  

Hugs,
Susie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/susanebunn/ItAllStartsAfter50/

Anonymous said...

belive me if i had the means to do it i would do exactly the same!men can be so frustating!beckie.xx

Anonymous said...

As one military wife to another (even tho we have been retired for some time now)...I know just where you are coming from...and I knew when I read the journal what had happened...just didn't know the inner details....and I am glad you had the time to get away and regroup....it is something I think we all need to do from time to time...just need our OWN space for a little while...have a happy day sweetie....you are special...a good Mum and a good Wifey....LOL...Hugs from KY....Ora

Anonymous said...

Good for you!! I would love to do that...but he might change the locks by the time I came home...lol...

Tracie

Anonymous said...

There is NOTHING trivial about what you did.  If I had a gold medal I would send it FedEx overnight! LOL  I am so very proud of you and you know what, I don't think he's going to say,  ".....and don't come back", again.  Since Nov., 2005 I have been dealing with these same issues and I applaud your move.  Gosh, I am so impressed, I think I have tears in my eyes.  I'm very glad I stopped by today to read this!
Hugs by the basket full!
Kathy

Anonymous said...

I have done that before and you are right it is truely wonderful!!! Im glad things are ok....I think!! You know you can call ot email amytime you need a shoulder!
Hugs
Carrie

Anonymous said...

Awwwwwwwwww Lyn, I am glad you caught the dryer plug burning before it caused serious damage, sorry things at home are stressful, maybe now your family will appreciate you more, Hugs Lisa

Anonymous said...

AWESOME!!!!!  

Anonymous said...

You GO GIRL!  That's great! Inspiring! Empowering! I vote that you take one night off a month. Make it a sacrosanct ritual and pass it on to your daughters. Maybe even suggest it to your husband...

Anonymous said...

OMG! I totally LOVE it! Brava!!!

Anonymous said...

I do admire you ,I hope they have learned a lesson that they will remember for a long time ,Dont be taken for granted ...love Jan xx

Anonymous said...

I take my hat off to you girl.....you don't take crap from anyone!!
Glad everything worked out ok - I don't think you'll be taken advantage of for a long time.  Does them good to just think about things once in a while.
Hope this coming week's a better one for you.
Big hugs,
A xxx

Anonymous said...

Good for you Lyn, they will take you a bit more seriously in future. I hope you enjoyed your night in the hotel. :o))

Sandra xxxx

Anonymous said...

I have often wanted to run away! Instead I just go to the beach. The waves are so loud that I cannot hear myself think! LOL Good for you!
Kelli
http://journals.aol.com/kamdghwmw/noonmom

Anonymous said...

Oh; How I relate to your story! and how I wish I could run away for a day or so.  I know just what you are saying about being taken advantage of ; I can not tell you how many times I have asked my husband how he thinks things get done around the house: does he really think there are little elves around that do all the things that I do! It is so frustrating! Good for you that you did this...hopefully they will appreciate you and all that you do...& that they do NOT have to do!
Maria

Anonymous said...

I have felt like doing the running away bit too!!  I think you were right to do it and I am glad you enjoyed it!  Good on you Lynn.  Hugs, Terry x

Anonymous said...

Sometime you just have to state your case in whatever way will make the most impact...looks like you did!!  
xoxo ~myra

Anonymous said...

I think maybe I should do that.....What a big wake up call...Glad you got time to yourself. Hope you are feeling better. I am glad you caught the dryer, that could have turned out bad. Thanx for the visits to my journal, I am glad you stop by..
Michele

Anonymous said...

I think all of us moms should run away for a night.  Hope you have a good week.
Missie

Anonymous said...

You should have taken TWO days, you deserved it!!   On the second night you couldda invited your friends over for a good old fashion "bash men spend the night party"  lol
Great journal!
~Meg

Anonymous said...

I am really proud of you for keeping it real.  It would have been so easy to gloss over this incident and not tell us.  I am really glad you did.  You, Brits, stiff upper lip and all...!  
It doesn't sound trivial.  It sounds like a real bonafide fight.  One that had merit and you had a right to feel mad and unwanted.  I hope you and hubby work it out so that you can get past this without hurting each other again.  
So glad the smoke started before you left!  Wow.  I would have been freaked!
Traci

Anonymous said...

Hugs to you!
Sometimes they need a wake up call....good for you :)  

Hugs,
Gretchen

Anonymous said...

What an entry.  Glad everything worked out.  We all need a little time to ourseleves someytimes.  The tub sounds heavenly!!
Gillie

Anonymous said...

WOW. Good for you! I always threaten to run away but never do. Glad it had the desired effect big hugs Vicky

Anonymous said...

oh man i would have loved to get away and do that.  :)
i can totally understand why you needed to do that
sometimes we all need that
plus the venting about all of it helps too
have a good day
<3, emily

Anonymous said...

YOU ROCK!!!
I wanna hug you, damn girl do u know how many times I have thought just that same thing, but then I'd be accused of being with someone else, J would NEVER believe I could need time to myself, good for you, I am glad it dot them to open their eyes a little, I know you don't mind taking care of your family, its the person you are, but every one of us need someone to appreciate what we do....  

I did kinda do that a yearago, but I took my kids with me and we went to my granfathers for the whole week of spring break, J was so upset I would leave him for a whole week. but it was bliss, even the kids were great on our little mini vacation...

I am looking forward to doing that again this year too.

Take care, MISSY

Anonymous said...

You go girl!! ThtI ran away once.  Went out and got totally drunk. I should have stayed out all night, but was too drunk.  Went home and hubby tucked me and told me he was sorry.  LOL That was many years ago when our kids were youngsters.  I think you got it right though!
Glad all is well.
Hugs, Barb  

Anonymous said...

Damn! Now I'm jealous. I must be too boring to get hate mail. lol. Why not leave the nasty comments in, then we can go visit their Journal to see how perfect they are?

Linda x.

http://journals.aol.co.uk/lindaggeorge/GeorgeMansions/

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Anonymous said...

well I do see IM going to have to hit alerts again. I read down to here to get caught up. You know men do things to push buttons. Mine can say that like your mom grandma or whatever to piss me off. we had an almost fire here too yesterday morning. the humidifire was frying. Tracy said  I smell rubber burning took us a bit to figure it out. Yes it is unnerving especially since I was in a fire once in a house nad it makes me nervous to this day. anywho I think it was a good thing for you to run away. I tihnk we all need to run away once in a while. Soudns like a good idea to me. WHY NOT!!!!!!!!! AND run to a nice place too. have your meals fixed and room taken care of. You know I stya home too so ........... I do the bills take care of so many things and Yes I dont get the respect Ithink I should either alot of times. SOMtimes I tell my mom I wish I was dead for a week. then they would see all that i do. THEY just do not realize all that I do for them around th ehouse.

Anonymous said...

Hi Lyn,
None of this was trivial..at all. When we lived in Reno, before coming to Las Vegas I sord of had the same thing happen. Kinda, sorda..lol. Maybe you just gave me a great idea for an entry..lol It was funny too, not that I'm saying what happened to you was because it was NOT. Although the beer, the whirlpool and book sound like a great idea!
I'm glad things are better now for you :). YOu do so much and work so hard.
Huggers,
Gayla

Anonymous said...

Well done girl, our men need a shake up sometimes and you got to have some good me time into the bargain (just hope you put it all on hubby's credit card lol)
love
Debbie

Anonymous said...

Aw, you know what. You did the right thing, you needed time off for once. And you came back which is the important thing. But sometimes you feel like you loose your identity taking care of others and always putting them first. you just needed to relax and put yourself first for once. nothing wrong with that. and at the end of the day, you returned home. happier i'm sure.

shermeen xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/shermeen0621/shermsinthemiddle/

Anonymous said...

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sheesh, it's amazing that it takes things like that to happen for people to WAKE UP and realize what's being done for you all the time...ya know??  Even though Cindy and I never fight  lol  (it will happen one day I'm sure) I'm going to remember that idea  LOL.  You above all need to take care of yourself 'cuz really in the long run that's the only one who can do it.  Does that make sense?  ((((Huggin' you up)))) Teresa

Anonymous said...

wow!!! that is something, I may need to do..... good for you... I am tired of being taken advantage of... and not being appreciated... I'm behind on alerts...but had to leave a comment on this entry. Lisa

Anonymous said...

WOW..........WTG Lyn......lol

I think what you done was brill..... hee hee....... sometimes we do just get taken for granted and people need to understand certain things before they go off on one......i admire you for what you done .
Sorry to hear about the smoke/ fire problem....i can imagine what was going through your mind because the other week my vacuum was playing up....i started hoovering and it started smelling of burning...when i looked down it was smoking. Anyway i went and out it into the kitchen as it was raining outside and i was saying to my eldest daughter that i was wary of going out as my youngest was here with my grandson.......anyway thankfully it had cooled down by the time we got ready to go.....but its very worrying .

Take Care
hugs
Jayne