Today would have been my mums 70th birthday.
As you know I did not have the greatest of relationships with my Mum.She was moody, miserable, bitchy a lot of the time. She was also very funny, kind hearted, great with old people..would give you the shirt off her back.. great sense of humour..we once almost got thrown off a bus for the uncontrollable giggles caused by a man sitting oppisite us with this huge bandage on his nose..one look at him and her and I were off...it was terrible!! the more we tried to stop the worse it got... LOL She cried at the Waltons and Little House on the Prarie.. she loved dogs..we had a Red Setter called Tramp for 14 years.. she walked him 3 miles every day..sometimes twice...she could do cartwheels, juggle, ride a moterbike, never learned to drive..she tried a few times but always gave up she was way too nervous.. she made Christmas very very special.. she would begin "hoarding" food as early as September..she kept it all under th stairs...she loved Malteasers (english candy similar to whoppers) she smoked..in her later years rolled her own to save money.. I saw her get into at least 3 fist fights with women...she had a terrible temper...one time this girl was after me..said I had been after her boyfirend..my Mum drug her out the pub by her hair and told her she ever so much as looked at me wrong she would be back... ;-) She loved Country and Western music and dancing and slot machines. she was the life and soul of the party and no one would ever believe the way she was at home..she was terrified of Doctors, hospitals and had a morbid fear of choking.. she chewed her food into tiny pieces to avoid that....if we ever got hurt as kids she would go get the neighbours because she would panic......she once knocked two ornaments together while dusting and smashed them and cut her palms badly..she had to have stitches and they pretty much had to put her to sleep to do them..LOL...she was always dusting, hoovering, would come in on a saturday morning when I was trying to sleep in and open the curtains and the bloody windows and start hoovering around me...LOL.. she would spit on a hanky and wipe off my face as a kid ewwwwwwwwww...she was only just 5' tall..she was one of twins..her twin died at birth..she was born in a workhouse..she only weighed 2lb.. she never met her dad he was an alcoholic and died of Cirrosis of the liver.. her family was very poor.. she had 2 sisters and 3 brothers...hr real name was Diana but veryone called her babe as she was the youngest.. I once watched her and her sister get into a fight..my dad and my uncle had to sperate them with a water hose...LOL.. she was very very passionate... she would defend us kids to the very end...looking back I can see we had far more happy times than sad...but when I reached puberty that was it..we fought on and off for years..she semed to be jealous of me..she begrudged me the relationship I had with my dad..she felt like it was us against her...the things she said and did to me were awful..she hit me..she calld me all the names under the sun...she hated with the same passion she loved...but at the end of the day I can say that she loved me and she did her best...she grew up in a time when you didn't talk about womens problems, depression was not an option, I know she suffered from it though, and I know she had a terrible time with menopause but never asked for help... and I can admit I was a typical moody teenager. I just wish things could have been different.. I wish we could have had the kind of relationaship I have with my daughter... that is the one good thing that came out of it..I was determined to not be the way she was...
Anyways...
No Happy Returns Mum...just happy memories till we meet again..night night God Bless....
Lyn
17 comments:
She sounded wonderful. My mom 's nickname was also babe.....that brought tears to my eyes since this month is the anniversary of her death.
Thanks for sharing
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Ellen
Thanks for sharing that L! What a great entry.
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Carrie
I liked hearing about your mom!
what a beautiful entry about your mom.....she sounds like a wonderful person but i am so very sorry for how she treated you. You did not deserve that. I know she loved you dearly....and her problems were probaly from her childhood. What a shame for that.
love you.
lisa
Thanks so much for posting this entry about your mom. I can tell that you loved and love her very much. I learned a long time ago that all anyone in this life is doing, is the very best they can according to their own experiences in life and you can't expect any more from them than that...even if you wish things would be different. When people know better, they do better. It's very good that you can see the good that came from out of the bad. Bless you,
Marie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/mariealicejoan/MariesMuses/
Thankyou so much for this, what a character your Mum was even though she had a difficult time during the menopause (very similar to my Mum ) its clear she loved you all dearly, as you did her, you must miss her so ,.,.,love Jan xx,
Your mum sounds like mine. Hugs to you! I think the hardest thing in my life besides losing one of my kids to death, will be losing my mom. Hope you have a great day.
Missie
Oh I would have loved to have watched the Waltons and Little House with you and your mum. Great memories!!!!!!! Super Hugs coming your way,
Lisa
Happy and warm hugs to you this day....the past can be rocky for alot of us....it was the times....or so we say....but we cannot let the past determine what we are today....you are a lovely person....and I enjoy reading your journal...alot....hugs from KY....Ora
Hi Lyn, It goes to show that after all you went through, it`s obvious that you both loved each other dearly. I could never say Kerry and I had the best of relationships as she was growing up but it came together in the end. Your Mum sounds to me like a wonderful person.
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Sandra xxxx
Thats lovely what you wrote about your mum. I am glad you had some special times. I hope writing all that out made you feel close to her. I had tears in my eyes when I read it, imaging her and you and her life when she was young. Thank you for sharing this.
Very coincidental - my mum also died on the the 28th May but in 1994. Hugs. Terry x
Hi Lyn, what a beautiful tribute to your mum.. Thank you for dropping by and leaving your link. Lisa
Awww Lyn, I'm sorry hunny. I understand now and wish I didn't. {{{{{Lyn}}}}} I love you.
Your relationship with your mother was very much like my own with my mum. She too is gone now. As much as I was a frustration to her and way too headstrong, I know she loved me without bounds. Thank you for sharing this with us. I think she is probably closer to you now than you realize.
Susie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/susanebunn/ItAllStartsAfter50/
What a fabulous entry. . your Mum sounds wonderful Lynn. . .I laughed at the thought of her fighting and sticking up for you!!I think women had it tough then. .menopause and depression were things you put up with so she probably never really meant to be moody.Sound like she was a great laugh too. . God Rest her soul.
Awww that was such a wonderful tribute Lyn........it was lovely to read what she was like
Thanks
Jayne
This was a tribute worth sharing. It was the cold hard, uncensored truth. Always worth telling. Like any of us, I like to think that people always did the very best that they knew how at the time. I hope your get easier with living with all of the unfair events. My mom was jealous of my Dad and our relationship too. Strange.
NELISHIA
http://journals.aol.com/nelishianatl/WISHINGANDHOPING/
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