Good Morning Campers!!
You know you blog away here in Blogland..you make friends..you invite these people into your private life by allowing them to read all about you...you probably reveal more than you would if you were actually Friends in the 'real world".. you talk about everything..the good the bad and the ugly and then one day someone has a beef with someone else and it turns ugly....feelings get hurt..and then the gossip warriors get a hold of it and it gets all blown out of proportion.. I have seen it happen so many times on here..I have been blogging for almost 3 years now and at least once a year there is a "war".. I have never personally been a victim....... however recently 2 close Friends of mine had a falling out and because I did not "pick sides"..I chose to remain Friends with both of them...(why should I have to pick sides it was nothing to do with me?) one of the parties involved chose to drop me a friend and is now attempting to tell all her other friends not to be friends with me either...does this not sound just like high school?? because that's exactly what it feels like to me....
So I'll do you all a favour...if you don't want to associate with me just because I will NOT pick sides in this whole debacle then that is fine....block me..drop me..do what you gotta do...but please note I have washed my hands of the whole thing...NO ONE can tell me who to be friends with..I am an individual with my own opinions and I make my own decisions....
If you have no idea what I am talking about then thank your lucky stars!! I am blogging about this just for myself..no one else...just to get this off my chest...it's not about you it's about me so don't even bother leaving nasty comments... I have no time for negativity in my life.. I choose to remain positive and happy and cannot let other peoples problems become my own....
It is a beautiful sunny day here in Florida and I intend to make the most of it!! Life is too short people!! Lighten up and be grateful for each and every day!!
L xx
47 comments:
Thankfully, I haven't seen that kind of behavior in blogland. It might have been happening around me and I just didn't notice it. It sounds more like sixth-grade behavior than high school, though.
Long ago in chat rooms I saw the kind of thing you're talking about. In fact, I saw a chat room destroyed by it. I stopped doing "chat" after that!
Sorry you had to deal with that. Maybe there's something to be say for only having 19 followers after all ;)
HUGS
Fortunately I dont know what or who you are talking about ,but know what you mean and wholeheartedly agree Lyn ,makes you wonder if these people are trouble makers in real life ..love Jan xx
No I don't know who all this is about but glad you are handling the issue well. I get to deal with this behavior at work! Who wants it blogging? lol
Hope your day is a good one.
Sonya
Oh hun, *BIG HUGS* i have no clue on this one lol. So im thankful for that. But im sorry to you though. I think ur a great friend and awesome woman. i dont understand how grown ppl can be more childish these days then kids. Im sorry hun. U just dont need this on top of everything else. I mean really i think we all come here to blog, be on blogger to have a good time, enjoy sharing our life with others make friendships. Then we have to deal with high school drama? Uggh its just sad. Anyhow hun you have the right idea. Dont let them get to you, dont let them see u sweat. Keep ur head up cause u know ur better then that hun. Yes it is getting beautiful in Fl huh? Getting too warm for me though lol. But it is nice. Take care hun. hope you have a good day. Love yah
i have no ideal who or what is going on... & don't want to! :)
i just blog along, doing the best i can with what i got, & leaving others alone. lol
have a lovely day my friend.
huggies...
I am soooo glad I have no idea what you are talking about but it sounds like you are handling it like a pro!
(((HUGS))
xx
Thankfully Lyn I don't know what or who you are talking about ~ sounds more like Kindergarten to me ~ glad I am not part of it ~ I agree with you ~ you certainly should not be expected to pick sides in this affair ~ and those involved should grow up :o) ~ Ally x
I can joyfully say I don't have a clue who's behaving this way. I have found that I've gotten away from the blogs that seem to draw in drama. Life is simply too short of this sort of rediculous behavior.
I hope you have a better day!
OMG..pick sides??? Are you KIDDING?? LMAO! I'm sorry...this sounds so childish. Thankfully, I don't know who you are referring to. I sure hope it's nobody I know!
Thankfully I too do not know any thing about any of what's going on. That says alot for those that have left comments here this morning. I'd say from looking over the list that these people are the ones that choose to look on the bright side for sure. Don't let it bother you. Like you said it's a waste of time to dwell on the negative. That's me too for sure. Life is too short for anything but the good stuff.
'On Ya'-ma
Well if you had asked me to write the words for you in this post Lyn I would have wrote just the same.Well said I cannot understand the mentality of some grown people.Lets hope they keep to there own little circle.I can do without going back to being a child I wouldn't be able to have any Gin laying on my lounger in the sun Heeeeeeeee.Have a great day LUV YA HUGS.Take Care God Bless..
call me clueless...again...but glad you are able to vent....SUNNY FL is great...enjoy your day!!
..thankng my lucky stars here!! Hope you have a great day!!
Put that in your pipe and smoke it! That's getting it off your chest!. Life is too short for such nonsense. You go girl. Take care of you and yours always!
You're right, every year one group of people seem to attack another and some people pick sides causing a blogging war.
I've never understood it and i always try to stay out of it. I am no longer able to read some private blogs and I'm sure it's cause like you, I wouldn't pick sides.
hm, sounds weird. I have never seent his, but I have very few friends here, probably cause I keep deleting blogs that dont interest me. I think part of the problem is this collecting of "followers". People dont give any thought to who is following them, they are just glad to more followers than someone else. I could care less. In my last blog I told people to delete me if they think my blog is boring or whatever because chances are, I want to delete them too and am just waiting for the appropriate moment when they wont notice and no ones feelings will be hurt!
I'd rather keep my group of friends small. I do have one friend who is completely opposite of me, but even though sometimes I am annoyed with her, I try to be diplomatic because what good does it do to criticise anyway. I just try to find the good.
Taking sides, that wouldnt fly with me. Just ignore all that gossip and stuff, its definitely immature. Sheesh. Grown women!
I haven't any idea whats going on so it sounds like that is a good thing. Also I am much to old to mess with that type of childish behavior. So I guess I'll still pop around LOL.
Words well spoken. Life is too short. This community is supposed to be a place for people to connect with one another...not to bash someone for having a different view or idea.
Rock on Lyn!!
This stuff tends to bypass me! I like to read happy blogs. Some people must have incredibily sad lifes to cause discontent on Blog land! Take care xx
You are right to not pick sides. It is not right to be 'banished' from someone's life for choosing not to pick sides. Only in sixth grade would I expect others to get mad at the one the main one is mad at. Not in real over fourty life.
Every year this happens to someone somewhere in Jland.
It is gorgeous outside today and I'm going to enjoy it and count my blessings here at home.
Still picking out shrapnel from friendly fire myself.
Nelishia
I guess for those that don't have enough drama in their OWN life they have to drum it up in their cyber life. (shrug) SOOOO high school. :)
Don't let it get you down. Sit by the pool, read a book and enjoy the sunshine...Sheila
Good for you....I hate to admit that for a long while I had a lot of drama going on with journal writing. I am so happy that all my friends stayed my friends and like you did not choose sides. I do believe its juvenille and no one should expect you to act like one.
THANK GOD...I have NO idea what's going on here but I agree with you...you are a grown woman who can make her own decisions and we are not in high school anymore!!!
I have had trouble with some people in JLand. Sometimes we THINK someone is one way, but then something will happen and you will realize how wrong you were about a person. I don't think it helps that I am pretty upfront...if I don't agree with something, I will tell you. Sometimes people think you aren't their friend simply because you don't agree with them. This place can be crazy and sometimes I think we have to weed through everyone to really find those "friends" that we can totally connect to. I've been ignored, cursed at, talked about in other journals...you name it, I have been there. The best tool? BLOCKING. Someone is gonna give me a hard time and POOF....they are blocked! (lol)
((hugs))
Jeanne
Like the others, I have no idea who you are referring to Lyn. I've sat on the fence before and seen the damage this sort of thing can cause, I'm just glad that I've never been part of it. You seem to be handling it just the way I would have done...well done you!
Like the others, I have no idea who you are referring to Lyn. I've sat on the fence before and seen the damage this sort of thing can cause, I'm just glad that I've never been part of it. You seem to be handling it just the way I would have done...well done you!
Oh Lyn...some folks can be so childish...and I am with you...get on with it gang....LOLOL...I so enjoy blogging...but I refuse to be negative...and if someone does say something I don't like...I just don't comment...and get on with it all...I so enjoy reading about everyone...why some folks I would never in this lifetime ever meet...but thru this blogging stuff I have made some beautiful friendships....so blog on girl...tell it like it is...and if you need to vent...go for it LOLOL...amazing how the air clears when venting is done huh???? God Bless...hugs...Ora in KY
I wouldn't be pushed into taking sides either.
It is their problem to resolve.
I'm glad you're enjoying your sunny day in Florida:)
Sheri
I have to say I don't have a clue either, & I'd rather keep it that way. There's so many more important things in life to worry about. I wouldn't let it bother me.
Lyn, sorry this has happened , I try to stay out of the drama, No I did not get a card yet from you, will let you know though, Hugs Lisa
So childish isnt it? Ive seen and been through this online; good for you that you refuse to pick sides!
Oh sweetie...you've only been blogging for three years? Your still a baby. I've been blogging for almost ten and I've seen so much of this kind of thing that it would make your head spin.
You stand your ground. True friends wouldn't ask you to choose sides. You are spot on by staying out of it.
Lovish!
Connie
I havnt a clue what youre on about Lynn (but the nosy gossip inside me is dying to know...lol)
The fact is all you can do is be true to yourself - which is exactly what you are doing. To me you have been an online friend with a capital 'F' and I love you for it,
Jane
Been there done with that! In fact, I've had two friends irl who have parted ways and I choose to stay friends with both of them. Stress, I tell ya! I'll hang out with you still!
I have seen it. Even the death of one did nothing to stop the ugly lies told about her. It is like high school! i stay out of the crap shoots.
Life is too short to be bothered with stuff like that. We are all grown people and I don't understand how people can act like little kids in Kindergarden.
You did the right thing.
Best of luck.
~Maria
I agree with you Lyn. I've seen it also in the past few years I've been journaling. When I used to go to chat rooms like Donna, I've seen entire chat rooms destroyed by drama and kiddie games. And yes, it is like high school or even jr. high. Pure ridiculousness in my opinion. I adore your journals and always have. Days when I have been really down I can read your cheery thoughts and downright funniness and it will make me smile.
I know I don't always comment and I don't get here as much as I would like because my "real world" get's in the way - but I wanted you to know how much I appreciate you. Love and Hugs, Teresa
Well,I'm thanking my lucky stars, because I have no idea what is going on. I would feel the same way if I were in your place, though. It does sound a lot like high school (or even grammar school!). Take care!
Well my dear, I haven't a clue what you're talking about and for that I am grateful.
I will say this however...I am blessed to be one who has benefited from your loyalty and refusal to be told who to be friends with. That meant the world to me at the time and it still means more to me than you will ever know.
You just keep on being true to yourself my darlin' friend. I love you.
I am sorry to hear about the behavior of these others and am glad I don't know what it is about .... I thought you put it all very well in this entry and wish you a wonderful weekend of peace, joy and happiness!!
Lisa
Hello Lyn,
I am sorry you had to experience this kind of thing. I haven't experienced this kind of thing lately. However I did see your survey in your other entry and I did a survey from your entry and I posted my own answers in the survey. Thanks for being here Lyn I appreciate you and your blog. I consider you a friend here at Blog Land. Keep your head up.
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So do you feel like you are back in high school again? This is exactly what this reminds me of. You've done the right thing, sweetie!
good grief - it's been a week and I'm just now getting here! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I have no idea what's going on, and I am glad for it. Stick to your guns girl.
I changed the name of my blog. I took my name out of the title. I didn't want anyone to be able to find me so easily by just typing in my name.
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