Is that an echo??? It sure is empty here in J Land....I miss my alerts.. I miss the sound of the little alert box popping up every few minutes.. my mailbox is sulking too... come on AOL do your thang...I have reported the problem..even told our editor Joe...nothing else I can do but wait..and wait and wait....damn that echo... ;-)
I don't even know if anyone will read this ..weird thought..but anyways.. not a whole lot going on here...had to get new tires for my car.. so dropped the car off Friday and then ran errands with my friend Jen...had a few too many glasses of vino Friday night so was a slug yesterday.. going to make up for it today.. off to Walmart this morning.. then I have to make something to take to the Barbecue I have been invited to this afternoon...going to make Hash brown Casserole I think..always a hit...I don't have to work until Wednesday so I plan on topping up my tan by the pool and catching up on some reading.. it is still in the 90's here...no sign of fall yet..
Spoke with hubby.. he is doing fine...says the time is going by fast for him..I guess it is for me too..we are more than half way thru the six months...I was thinking a lot about us last night.. I am going to really commit myself to making our marriage stronger and closer..we really have grown apart..we have been away from each other for so long... I guess we have just got used to being alone.. I just get on with things.. I don't "need" him anymore...I have run this house, taken care of everything, I pay all the bills, make all the decisions and don't have to ask him for anything... and he probably feels that he is not needed or wanted..that must be awful... I am going to really work on making him feel a part of this family again... not that he isn't but you know what I mean..or do you?? I am totally rambling here I know I am...it's so hard this military wife thing...damned if you do and damned if you don't...On the one hand I want him to be proud of me and know that he can rely on me to take care of everything and not have to worry about things on the home front but on the other hand that very behavior makes him feel that he is not needed....or wanted.... <sigh>
Enough of me and my woes.. I need to get going here and get showered and on with my day.. I sure do miss all of you..I have read a few that I knew would have entries... to the rest of you I MISS YOU!!!
Have a great Sunday and to my friends here stateside Happy Labor Day!!
L
21 comments:
Well I received an Alert, so hopefully others did too.
Weather here in Worcester, England is mostly grey, windy with the odd bit of sun, so please stop showing off about your weather!
I go back to school Wednesday, after six weeks off it's going to be hard but at least it's a short week. Enjoy your days off.
Linda.
http://journals.aol.co.uk/lindaggeorge/GeorgeMansions/
I received this alert...i have also updated in case you dont get an alert for me.
I wish i had been with you when you had the wine....sounds good! I am hoping to get new tires on my car, i need them too.
Loved reading about your feelings for your hubby...i cant wait for him to come home to you.
LOVE you,lisa
I seem to be getting alerts OK weather I am getting them all I can't say ~ hope AOL sorts this out quickly ~ Hash Brown Casserole sounds nice hope you enjoy the BBQ ~ The weather is quite nice here in Norfolk a bit windy but nice blue sky ~ Glad Hubby's doing fine and the time is slipping by fast for him ~ be glad when he is home though so you can all get back together as a family ~ I am sure you will be able to make him feel wanted and needed as soon as he gets home ~ Ally
dont panic i didnt get an alert but i am visiting peeps to check up on them,lol,bloomin aol,i hope you sort everything with your hubby as you do love him alot,we can see that just have some 'us' time when he gets back itll be great xxzoexx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/zoepaul6968/DomesticAbuse/
Hi: I saw you over at Lisa Jo's journal DAMAGED GOODS and liked the comment you left for her. She is very dear to me. I wanted to say hello, introduce myself and tell you that I am enjoying your journal thus far. You're amazingly strong and independent. I'm getting my alerts just fine but glad you told the editor because many are not. I will be back to visit again soon.
Waving at you from Atlanta, Georgia
Nelishia
http://journals.aol.com/nelishianatl/WISHINGANDHOPING/
I definately get what you're saying about not "needing" your husband. I think to be in a successful marriage in the military the non duty member has to have a certain amount of independence about her/him otherwise they just melt down when their spouse is deployed, etc. Yet....we have to show them they're needed too when they're home and gone. It's truly a delicate balance imo and it's not always so easy to abtain. We're at just over 10 months in this deployment of 12 and I know there will be the honeymoon period when he gets home and then there's the readjustment period where I think we both more or less fight for power, and it's hard for me at times over certain aspects to let it go and let him take it back. I think I'll probably really struggle after this one, it's our longest seperation and he's most likely going right back in 10 months so knowing I'm going to have to be everything again so quickly stinks.
BTW I've been getting I think all my alerts this weekend. AOL is rather annoying with them and they seem to love to mess with them every once in a while.
God Bless
Christy
Hello? Are you out there? Yes, there you are!!!! I have to manually go to each blog and see if there is an update. My family thinks this cult has moved to a whole new level....alerts are not working, they say? What the heck is that? Never mind , it's a cult thing, I mean J-land thing!!!
love ya
Ellen
I have thought the same thing lately, seems as though everyone is busy with their summer plans! How could you and your hubby not grow apart while living on separate contenents (did I spell that right?) I'm sure you will work out all the kinks when you see each other again... Take care!
My last alert was omn Friday night not even getting them for my journal ,so am popping back from time to time ,Iam like you surfing my friends some have posted some not ,I too have a silence that only the ping of the alerts can fill ,it is really not good enough ,Sugar says she heard Joe is away ,until Tuesdayl (Labour day weekend) I dont know when it will be restored ,.,.,.,Jan xx http://journals.aol.co.uk/jeadie05/Seredipity/
I'm sure it must be so difficult for you guys being apart. I'm always in awe of military wives because i'm broken enough with Adam and I just living apart. imagine how it'd be for me if he was in the military.
I think you've got a great game plan for when your hubby returns. I'm sure all the all emotions will come back and you'll wonder how you went on without him.
Hope he comes home soon to you.
Shermeen xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/shermeen0621/PublicThoughts/
Hey sweets!
You should sign up for bloglines. It's free and it
operates on the RSS feed that each journal entry
creates. I haven't missed a single journal entry
since I signed up for it and its free. It takes a little
time to copy and paste everyone's journal link
into it, but once youve done it you will love it!
All of your journals will be listed on one page,
and it will show you if any of them have updated.
Try it, you'll like it!
Connie
Manually checking my list of journals to see who's posted...still no alerts for me either. It's a bloody nuisance.
Hope you have a great weekend.
Ains xxxx
I sort of know what you mean. I wasn't married until I was 31. I lived on my own for the most part since I was 18 so it is still hard for me to rely on my husband. Not that I don't need or want him around it's just I got used to doing things on my own.
I am not having problems with alerts. Sorry that most of aol is.
Traci
Awww.That sounds so sweet that you are being so considerate of his feelings!! It must be tough being a military wife. Scotty and I are together all the time and when he has to go to work at night for a few hours I have that.....so you must really have it tough!! We are here for you babes!!!
Carrie
I get what you say about not needing hubby. . that can cause troubles in a marriage so good idea to work on that one.I was reading somewhere that asking a husbands opinion or making a descision can make a whole lot of difference to a man. . apparently they need to feel needed . . lol.
Was wondering... are you SURE he's feeling like he's not "needed"? I ask this because I have a friend who is a military wife. Her husband is in the Navy. When he comes home, he's GLAD she takes care of everything because he says the last thing he wants to worry about when he gets home is having to contribute to the household as a normal husband would (although she does save up a lot of the "handyman" stuff for him that is not emergency type stuff that needs immediate repair). He doesn't feel "not needed" at all. He feels greatful to be able to spend that time with the kids AND her...
I would think that it IS hard, though, to rotate him back into the non-chore routine of the household.
New tires... oh man I hate having to buy new tires. Seems like a lotta money for burning rubber. Well hope ya have a good rest and nice weekend for the holiday. HUgs,
Lisa
I don't know what it is with the alerts, that is why I don't rely on them. I have the journals I frequent in my favorite places and that is where I go to check up on you all. I do wish AOL would get their stuff together. Hope your holiday weekend was full of fun. Take care.
Phil the Thrill
Oh Lyn......it must be such a dilemma, i hear where your coming from..... i guess its nice to be independant....but at the same time...have someone to depend on and i guess being a military wife made it doubly hard.
Good Luck Sweetie
hugs
Jayne
aw bet you can't wait to see him again and at least he doesn't have to come back to turmoil! He probably is very proud of you. Linda xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/lindachapmanuk/metamorphing/
I have had alerts, but no way of being able to add comments. Come on AOL, pull yer finger out!
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