Good Morning Campers..
Has it really been over 4 months since my last post? Wow..no excuses...just caught up in the day to day wheel of life and the convenience of Face Book I guess... I miss writing ..it helps clear my head and I enjoy reading more than a quick status update...
The Summer is over although here in Florida we will have weeks more of warm weather..there have been a couple of cool mornings and it gets us all excited..after months of having to run the Air-Conditioner and either be inside or in water it is wonderful to step outside and not immediately be drenched in sweat...
The summer was uneventful..we didn't go anywhere..we have a huge expense coming up with hubby's retirement.. we have friends and family coming from all over the world and we are throwing a huge party..then in January we are going to Las Vegas for my SIL's 50th Bday Bash..so we didn't plan any trips this summer..I have been to the beach a few times and of course have enjoyed the pool but I am looking forward to the cooler weather and wearing something other than shorts and Flip Flops..LOL
Those of you on FB are aware of the ongoing saga with my beautiful daughters boyfriend..he continues to control her life and over Labour Day weekend had called me from her cell phone and told me he was going to kill her and then come to our house and kill me..I called the police and they went to his house and he refused to let them see my daughter..finally after an hour and the poilce threatening to kick his front door in he let them see Rachel..of course she told them she was fine..all the time this was going on he repeatedly called my phone ..over 47 times in an hour and as the police were leaving his house he told me "you dumb bitch I will just kill her when they leave" I filed a report and the sate of Florida prosecuted him..they issued a warrant for his arrest for stalking and harrassing phone calls..he only spent one night in Jail..ny daughter bailed him out and he has plead not guilty..so dumb because we have the phone records and the cop witnessed it..he is trying to say that it was my daughter calling as it was her phone..my daughter still lives here..she works 10 hour days and I think this is her only safe place so I will not kick her out although she is barely talking to us..she's mad because I had him arrested...why isn't she mad at him for harrassing me? I will probably go to my grave not understanding her devotion to him...I know love is blind but this is beyond that...I am very upset about it all and have some pretty low days..anyone who knows me knows what my family means to me and this has put such a rift between us.I just hope one day she will see the light and thank me for what I did and that through all the hate I never turned my back on her...
My son is doing great. .his job at the Property Maintenance company is going really well he has his own crew now..he still works 2 nights a week at Mc Donalds too for his gas money...I am so glad that things finally turned around for him..
As for me and hubby we are plodding along..his retirement will be here before we know it and then a new chapter begins..he is looking for another job of course..he is only 52 and not ready to completely retire yet..one job prospect is overseas for an entire year..BUT the payoff is $180,000.00 Tax free..if he took that he would never have to work another day in his life..we could pay off every single bill we have AND bank $100,000.00..kinda hard to turn your back on that! No pressure! LOL
Well that catches you up in Lyn's world..I am not sure if anyone still reads blogs..I sure remember a time when I never went a day without reading them all! I admit those days are over but sometimes like today I miss them...
Have a great Sunday!
L x
14 comments:
Hi Lyn.. Now i know where all our sun has gone, you've got it there...lol. I sometimes feel like i want to write or read blogs...i should update mine. They do seem to have gone out of fashion these days. If peole leaves FB like they're saying, i will probably go back to blogging. I find it hard not seeing my son at times through all the bad troubles he has brought to my door. Have a great time when you go to your sisters 50th. That job sounds really good and seems too good to let go Lyn...put the pressure on..lol Best wishes and take care..Astra/Sandra. xx
I'm so sorry about the situation with your daughter! I'm praying she sees the situation for what it is soon!! You did the right thing!!
Glad things are going well for your son!!
Exciting things going on for you and the hubs with the retirement coming up!!
So what was going on when he was yelling at you on her phone that he was gonna kill her? Were they arguing? Or is he just a dick? Sigh. I'm sorry things are hard between the two of you right now but you're doing the right thing. Better take care of it now and have her mad at you then have her turn up dead somewhere.
As for the $180,000 job. Well, you're a military wife. SURELY you can do without him buzzing around the house all day for a year. ;)
So..... what's "bogging?"
I haven't been blogging much either. I'm sure you know this already but people that are in an abusive relationship such as the one your daughter is most likely in. She will be afraid to take you side and will take his always. Men like that use fear as a weapon and tool to control people. I lived in a relationship like that for 12 years. He would threaten to turn me in the housing authority if I made him leave, then after my daughter was born, he would threaten to take her away and made me seem like a crazy, incompetant mother. He had everyone fooled. Good luck, I hope your daughter gets some sense and moves away from him.
Whoa girl, what a bunch of un needed excitement. I do hope the daughter gets her head on straight. and of course providing a safe place is best.
The job offer sounds good of course, twould be good if it would be accompanied. But being Military you guys have already had the separations. We have had none since retirement, unless you count the night I spent hiking the AT without her. LOL
The best to you guys... Jac, retired CPO
Hi Lyn,good to read a post from you.I love to read my daily blogs if I get the chance.If not I usually catch up on them another day.Yes summer has come to an end here too,the poor one we had.I feel for you about Daughter situation and pray all turns out well.We had friends who lost their Daughter to this kind of relationship,so like others I do hope your Daughter see's the light and quickly.A great worry fo ryou,it would make me ill for sure,even though I don't see eye to eye with my Daughter all the time.Well done on your beautiful Son Ryan,I am so pleased for him.As for the job situation regarding hubby,only you two can make that decision,money is very tempting,but I am sure hubby will make the right choise.VEGAS Whooooo-Hooo I love it LOL!!Thats great to look forward to.Prayers for a good week ahead for you all.Take Care God Bless Kath xxx
How sad about your daughter. I hope she comes to her senses re the dreadful boyfriend soon.
Facebook has a lot to answer for!
I 'do' Facebook, but only to keep up to date with all the bloggers who defected!
That job overseas for your hubby sounds like a dream job! I hope he gets it.
Still reading and still glad to hear from you. Facebook is more convenient but it is nice to hear more than just a status update from someone.
I hope you don't stress yourself out too much. You've done a great job as a mother but you can't always make the decisions for them. Of course you'll always want to protect her but at some point she needs to fight for herself and what's best for herself. It's hard, I've watched my mother go through it with my siblings and probably me too!
Enjoy the season change, it's getting milder and I'm hoping for snow at Christmas xx
$100K in the bank, even with bills paid, is not much at his age. Perhaps something local would be better.
What in the world. Oh I'm praying for your daughter, this breaks my heart for her and for you. I can't imagine the fear you're dealing with. I pray she will get strong enough to get away from him and stay away from him. Praying that she sees you and Les are on her side and only want her to be safe and know what real love is. I think it's incredibly smart and loving that you allow her to stay at your home, somewhere deep down she knows she has her soft and safe place to go to, home with her Mom and Daddy.
It's so good to see a post from you. Glad the urge to write hasn't left you completely. I'll be praying about your daughters situations. That is beyond scary. Hope the retirement party goes well as well as the birthday party coming up too. Both well worth celebrating for sure.
Nice to catch up with your news> Poor you...what a worry with your daughter, hope for you all she sees the light, I bet her dad and brother must be holding themselves back.
The job sounds exciting! xx
Oh good Lord, Lyn... I can only imagine how you must feel about your daughter's situation right now. Is this boyfriend sane? He might have some bipolar issues of some kind. I hope he gets help, and I hope your daughter realizes that she doesn't have to protect him from this really unacceptable behavior. I'm so sorry. I'm glad she still lives at home--there is hope. Take care Lyn!
I've followed the saga with your daughter on FB, but it remains a horrible situation, Lyn. Hope it soon gets resolved to everyone's satisfaction - faint hope, I know.
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