Good Morning Campers!!
It's been a while again...I remember the days when the first thing I did every morning was log in to my journal and see what was happening in the lives of my fellow journalers...those days have long since passed and I miss them...yes I get updates on face book but it is not the same cozy community we used to have.. I am guilty of not writing very much these days either...I used to think I was writing just for myself but perhaps not??
Anyway..this morning I am writing for me..I have a lot going on in this head of mine and the best way for me to clear it out is to get my thoughts down on "paper" so to speak...journaling. "Sudafed for the soul"...;-)
...I have been going through some crap with my friend again..her life is just one big drama after another and it takes its toll on me...an example of this is that she is moving again due to financial issues and has been pondering back and forth on what to do..whether to stay with her husband..she is miserable with him but financially she can't leave him..I have been there for her every day..listened to her..advised her...supported her...not financially I will add..those days are over...but I have been there in every other way..well this past weekend I got sick..nothing major..just a little head cold/sinus thing...I did not hear from her at all except for one text....I got to thinking about it and she rarely asks how I am or if I need anything or if I'm lonely ..missing my hubby..etc etc... it is always about her and her problems..well I am going to change that...I can't change anyone except myself and I am no longer going to allow this friendship to be one sided....it is toxic and I need to let it go..I will be her friend of course but I cannot allow her problems to become mine..I cannot feel guilty because my life is blessed...I cannot help that I have a wonderful husband and he provides for us..that my children and I have a great relationship and that there is not really any drama going on... instead of feeling guilty I am going to be grateful....
Speaking of grateful this is my favourite time of the year!! Time for me to start enjoying it ....I have allowed her troubles and anxieties for the season dull my joy! no more!! I am excited!! Hubby is coming home for 8 days!!! he has another conference in San Diego and has taken a weeks leave to fly home and see us! No he won't be here for Christmas but we will get to celebrate with him his 50th birthday and we will get to see him and hug him and be together!! he arrives on the 2nd...;-)
Well I feel better already! just getting my thoughts down on "paper" always helps me..I hope everyone has a joyful week getting ready for Thanksgiving...to me it is the official start to the "crazy" season..let the festivities begin!!
L xx
19 comments:
I think you made a very wise decision. I do agree about writing in journals...it is like sulfad for the soul. I'm still making an entry every day and love it when I see a post from those like you that don't make them everyday. It is a joy for sure that your hubby will be home. It's a short visit but better than none at all so you just have to count those blessings!
It always seems to help me also, I am happy your hubby is on the way home for a visit.
xxoxox glad hubby is coming home!!!!...happy journaling!!!!
I am so glad that you will get to spend some time with the hubby. Just think only three years left and then you guys are done!
Sometimes in life you just have to break free from people that drag you down. I know it is hard, because I had to do it. Hang in there girl.
Kelli
Ah, how well I remember those days, logging on in the morning to see a mailbox bursting with journal alerts. Now I mostly get spam lol
Right decision about your friend, however, hard. People who always need you but give nothing in return are not worth the trouble.
I agree with your post. You should only have friends that help you out in return and that are there for you when they can be. If she is not even asking about you, that is a problem.
Tell her to join the Real Housewives in her area and bitch to them about it.
Happy Thanksgiving! Happy HubbyHome. Make the most of him for 8 WHOLE DAYS! Spoiling the one you love and being spoilt back; nothing like it is there?
xxx
now that's some great news!!!
Sounds like you have made a wise decision about your friend. Wow, just a little over a week until hubby is home, I am happy for you.
Enjoy your time with hubby!
I certainly know how those one sided friendships work. It's hard to stay in a good frame of mind when being dragged into someone elses turmoil..
Enjoy the bright side of life.
I'm so glad that hubby is going to be home for a bit..
Hugs, Sheri
It can't be good for you to have a "friend" who doesn't offer you what you are freely giving her. I think you made a wise decision to distance yourself a bit.
You shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Be true to you. A good friend, even a friend who has a load of problems, will always make a point to ask and be concerned about YOU too..naturally. If it doesn't come like it's their second nature then something is wrong. I wouldn't take it.
You have your own family and your man is away, and that's hard! She should support YOU :)I'm glad he's coming home, happy for all of you :)
YOu take good care.
Huggers, Gayla
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I had one of those kinds of friends too. Although I do miss her, it's also a relief to not have her in my life anymore. It's hard to be around drama all the time and have it be a one sided friendship. It took someone outside the friendship to point out just how one sided it was before I took the time to look at things with new eyes. Whatever happens I hope it is what is best for you, that you aren't the only one constantly giving/caring in this friendship.
So glad your hubby is coming home for a little while...what a huge gift for you and the kids!
Hello Lyn,
I guess we ALL have had a "friend" like yours. I am glad you are taking back your peace of mind. You have ENOUGH on your plate without trying to clean her messes up too. It IS stressful & toxic. Good for you.
I know about logging on to JLAND in the morning & seeing what was going on, it's not the same over here. I haven't made an entry in forever. My problem is that I get distracted. I can't just sit down & do one thing. Then I go off to something else & I never get anything written. LOL By the time I finish an entry i have to go back & update it. sigh.
Am so glad that your DH will be making it home for his milestone birthday at least. I know you must be ecstatic to get to have him home for the week. Tell him Happy Birthday from Texas!! Hope you & your children have a nice Thanksgiving.
Hugs, Barb (queenb)
Hope you'll have a good Thanksgiving, Lyn
Sounds like you are making some healthy choices for yourself. ;o)
Lyn,
First of all, it's the 2nd, so I smile knowing that your husband is there with you. Enjoy every moment!
Secondly, I applaud you on your decision regarding your friend. I think most of us have or have had friends like that. It's very liberating to come to the conclusion that you have. Stay strong. YOU MATTER TOO!
If you'll email me with your address, I'm hoping to have your little gift ready soon (I DID have a year, remember!! lol lol lol)
Happy Hubby Holding!
It's a short visit but better than none at all so you just have to count those blessings!
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